Thursday, March 29, 2012

March 29th, 2012

March 29, 2012
Good morning cupcake... how you doin'?
What a wonderful week! I have had so many eye-openers this week but don’t take that as a bad thing. It just means that I have been growing as an individual and I love the way that I am seeing things in a whole different light.
The sun is coming up strong this morning (it’s now 7:30am) and it has given me a whole different outlook on life. If the sun can rise up strong and bright, why can’t I? I have the same right to do the same thing as the sun. Stand up taller… smile a little bigger… laugh a little louder. Make myself known to the world, even if the world never knows who I am.
And with the end of the month right around the corner, a greater sense of self has finally come around into my life. I am making myself my own priority. I am not going to wonder why people make me feel unworthy of their friendship because I am my own best friend. I am making the time to get know myself even better. Learning what works for me and what will help me grow as an individual. What will help me get to my goal? Who will help me along the way to attain my goal?
Not only am I my own best friend, am I also my own worst enemy. I am only human and I know that I will come across an hour, a day, a week of beating myself up about something that is out of my control. I am allowed to make mistakes but I not allowed wallowing in those mistakes.
The reason that I am making all these changes in my life is because I want to be able to live it as long as possible and the most important reason is that I want to be a role model for my daughter. She needs a strong female role model in her tiny life and I plan on being that for her. I do not want to her to look at other woman as role models; I want her to look at her mother as her model. I might not have accomplished a lot as of right now, but she is still young and I still have a lot of time ahead of me.
I also want to be someone that I am proud of… and I can be honest and say that there have been times that I have not been very proud of the choices that I have made in my life but those choices are the ones that have made me into the person that I am now. And whether or not the choices that I have made in the past aren’t the best, they are the ones that I have made and I have to live with them. They have allowed me to mold myself into something better. Those choices are the ones that give me the strength to move forward in my life… to look forward to other adventures that I am destined to have in my life.
I am tired of sitting back and watching everyone else enjoying their life… it is time for this chick to enjoy her life with her family and those friends that want to enjoy it with her. I have continued to look on Groupon to find things for my husband and me to do. Wine tastings, ¾-course meals at nice restaurants… things like that. I’ve even found something for our daughter to do… I want her to be well rounded. I want her to enjoy her childhood. I want her to enjoy it and be able to say when she’s older that her parents allowed her to be a child and she is happy with her childhood. My mother allowed me to be a child and I want to do the same thing for my child. Especially since there are so many things for her to do in her life, and I am going to make sure that I am able to give her all those things.
I have to say that I have been able to make some of my husband’s dreams come true because of those Groupon’s that I have found. I gave him a flying lesson for our anniversary. I gave him photography lessons for Father’s Day. I am hoping that I can find some more things along the way that I will be able to share with him or things that I can have him do himself. If I am going to grow, I am going to make sure that those around me are growing with me. And that means that my husband, my mother and my daughter are coming along for the ride. And if it is a bumpy ride, so be it… but I will make sure that it’s a good ride none-the-less. I will make it something that they will always remember.
I want to shine as bright as my life will allow me to do.
I want to leave my mark on the hearts of those that care about me.
I want to do something great for myself that I can be extremely proud of.
I will accomplish it all!

March 28th, 2012

March 28, 2012
This title can mean so many things to so many people... and for me, I am feeling the same way.

But one can ask, what exactly am I letting go? For one, I know that I am letting go of all this weight that I have been holding on to for so long - finally!! And that is the most important one right now in my life. But I have also come to realize that I am also letting go of friendships that I thought that were vital in my life. Friendships that I have had for such a long time.

It all started with a friend from high school. After so many things that we went through, she made it very clear to me that my friendship to her wasn't necessary. So I got the picture and made my exit from her life. I have finally reached out to her after 7 years.

Another one was from someone that I've known just about my whole life... I meet this person when I was in like 2nd grade or so and we were friends ever since. We shared a lot of important things in our life: birthdays, births, weddings, her divorce, etc. But again, for no reason at all she stopped speaking to me. And after reaching out, I decided that it was time to move on and I haven't spoken to her in almost 2 years.

Now I'm realizing it with a few other people too... and even though they will always be friends, the friendship will never be the same. I've come to realize that I am mentality growing and they just assume that I am going to continue to be the same person that I have been. I want to be a better person. I want to experience things. I want to explore things in the world (even if I never leave my backyard). But I want to become a better person for myself. And I will not make excuses for the person that I want to become because I am happy with the person that I am turning into.

Also, it has come perfectly clear to me that I am not a vital person in their lives. And maybe "vital" isn't the word that I need to use... but the word just isn't coming to me right now. When you realize that people make comments about things that you didn't know was happening, then you know that they are deliberately keeping you out of the loop, that hurts! The moment that I would do something like that, I would never hear the end of it... and I am now being treated like the outsider. But that's okay, I am comfortable enough in my life right now that I am branching out, meeting new people, going out with my husband - enjoying life.

I have to do what is right for me and my sanity. I don’t want to continue to feel hurt by the way that people are treating me. And even though they might feel like I am being “sensitive” about the situation or I am “exaggerating” the way that I am feeling, I don’t care what they say any more. I am exploring what other things there are in life. And I am feeling great about that.

On another note, Mayalis totally messed me up last night! But in a good way! LOL! I put her to bed around 9:15pm so that I would know that she was asleep by the time I went to bed. So around 10:30pm, I went in to check on her – like I normally do before I go to bed – and could you believe that she was just laying there in the dark, wide awake!! So she of course saw me, and said… hi mami, I no tired. OMG!!! She spoke a whole sentence to me!!
I am so proud of her!

So I picked her up and took her to Joel and told him what she said to me… he was just as shocked as I was with her little sentence! She is just so smart!!

Even before going to bed, she amazed us by counting all by herself. She would grab a little lego piece and count “one” and put it into the bin, she did the same with “two” and counted all the way up to 13!!! Then she started doing the opposite (taking the pieces out of the bin and counting) but did it in Spanish!!! This little girl is a genius. I guess I am doing a pretty good job as a mom with her. I hope that her desire to continue to learn keeps growing. I want nothing but the best for my little girl!

Now I am sitting here at work with a dilemma. Some people here are going to be ordering from a restaurant… and I am really tempted to order some cheese fries. Fries are my weakness! OMG… I am so tempted but do I really need to have them? I only have 13 PointsPlus values left for the rest of the day –my lunch was already counted in already – and I would really like a glass of milk tonight before going to bed.

NO! I won’t do it... I can’t do it! I will not give into temptation of these yummy fries… well, not until I have activity points in my bank and as of today, I have NONE! I am going to cardio kickboxing tonight (hopefully) and I will hopefully get some much needed activity points that I need to get weekly.

Thankfully they are already placing the order while I am writing this… and the phone has been hung up! I made it!! I didn’t order the cheese fries!! I am so proud of myself… I had the urge and fought the temptation to get them. I am so proud of myself… hopefully as time moves on, I will be able to fight a lot more of those urges and get down to the weight that I need to be.

And even though I haven’t thought about it, I need to start… I need to know what my goal weight is. I have to know how much more I have to go so that I can start setting goals for myself. I am currently at 225… but what would be the ideal weight for me? Is 175 a good number? How about 170? Or even 165? So even if I pick any of those numbers, I am currently looking at a weight loss of over 50 pounds no matter what.

So, that’s the number that I need to strive for… a weight loss of minimum of 50 pounds. That would be most ideal for me to strive for. So for the next 39 weeks (that is from next week until the last full week in December), my goal is to get to my weight loss goal of 50 pounds. I want to get to my first year of Weight Watchers a whole other person.

March 27th, 2012

March 27, 2012
Alright... I didn't lose anything this week. I had a GREAT loss last week that pushed me onto the 10 pound loss mark but I screwed it up a bit.

That's okay... I'm human and I'm allowed to screw up here and there. But I really didn't want to screw up royally this week. I really felt like I was finally getting the hang of this - especially after 11 weeks of being on here.

I look at myself in the mirror and I see my face is thinner, my clothes are fitting me so much better... where did I go wrong?!?! I know that my weakness is the weekend, but I can't make that the excuse for the rest of my life. I have to stay on track on the weekends the same way that I stay on track during the week. I can't continue to hold myself back from the greatest achievement that I want to accomplish... my weight loss!

I want to see myself continue to grow mentality, as a person... and the weight to physically disappear. And I know that WW is helping me do that, but if I continue to stray off, I won't be able to see the real person that is trapped inside of me.

After seeing the numbers go up on the scale, I made a promise to myself last night. I need to make changes in my life and I need to make them NOW! So after my weekly meeting, I started making changes as soon as I got home.
I had some soup instead of the food that my lovely mother had cooked for all of us... I had a cup of Purple Acai and Blueberry Green Tea instead of diet soda and my water intake will of course increase (even though I take in a lot of water during the day already). But I need to make these changes for me if I want to see myself lose this weight that I have been struggling with for so long.

Setbacks will happen and setbacks do not define me... my accomplishments are what define me, and I will work on my accomplishments for the rest of my journey.

I will be faster in what I want to accomplish...
I will be better in what I need to do to accomplish my goals...
And in the end... I will be stronger because of it.

And because of my goal above, I will achieve the greatness that I believe that I so greatly deserve – not just for myself but for my family. They will see the hard work that I have done to get to where I need to be, and they will be proud of me. And that is the best type of reward one can ever acquire.

On another note, things in the realm of having another baby are slowly moving along. I have gotten my period on my own in both January and in February, which I am very happy about. We have been practicing very frequently on trying to have another one but it hasn’t happened yet.

So of course I will keep you posted on the progress of getting pregnant.
Only 15 days until my princess turns 2 years old and 19 days until her birthday party at Pump It Up. I cannot wait! Everyone that goes is going to have a fabulous time! 
And looking forward to tonight… not only am I going to have dinner made by the hubby, I will be using my Zumba game tonight. I cannot wait to try it out on the Xbox… it should be a great time!! And to work out all these pounds that I have to lose, it’s going to be a wonderful thing! I can easily burn about 800 calories in one hour of Zumba!!

March 26, 2012

March 26, 2012
It's been 25 days since I have written anything on my blog and there is no excuse for it except for being lazy about making time to go online and write.
The weather had been so nice here that I took advantage of it and went outside... and hung out with my princess in the beautiful over 75 degree weather that we had for 8 days straight!
I've been spending so much more time with the hubby and going out... we've been enjoying the time that we have with each other even more.

I am now planning our daughters second birthday... gosh, time sure has zoomed by since she was born. But I enjoy every second that I have with her.
It is because of three important people in my life that I have decided to make this journey on losing weight. They are my daughter, my husband and my mother... they are the ones that I run to for support and they sure give it with all their might. But even though they are my biggest supporters, the biggest supporter in my life is I. And I have seen so much change in the last 11 weeks!! And I looking forward to the next milestones in my life that I can continue to face with the confidence that I have been facing my weight loss journey.

It has been a huge struggle for me the last 11 weeks, but I see the light shining - even though it is far out of my grasp, I know that I will get to it. It will just be a matter of time... and I know that I will finally get to the goal weight that I want to get to. I just need to figure out what that number is.
I know that weight doesn't define a person but my self-confidence does! And with more and more weight coming off, my self-confidence has been shooting right out of me!

Just this weekend, I was able to clear the dance floor at a party that my husband and I were at. A friend of his took me out to dance a beautiful salsa song and we just looked fabulous dancing it! I haven't danced like that in AGES... and it felt great to be on the dance floor doing something that used to make feel great!
I love to dance! Especially salsa dancing... makes me feel like there are no cares in the world. The twists and the turns... make me feel beautiful! And the benefit of losing weight because of the hard work that goes along with dancing isn't a bad thing at all. ;-) I'm in love with dancing... and I hope that my princess loves it as much as I do. The hubby has even mentioned taking lessons so he can dance with me the way that I was dancing with his friend on Saturday night.
I might just look into dance lessons for the both of us... along with our gym workouts, my new Zumba Xbox game and dancing, these pounds just might melt away faster than expected!

Well, I am back baby... and I hope to stay on top!
Weight in is tonight...so looking forward to seeing what the scale is going to tell me.
I am on a mission to finally get this weight off… and I know that I’ve said this before, but with already hitting my 10 pounds mark this month, I am super psyched about it. I want to continue seeing great accomplishments ahead of me. I am so proud of the accomplishments that I have so far done in my life… they might be small for some, but they are HUGE for me. I am very happy about that. With each step I take, it is something new that I am doing for my life. And I am very happy about those steps.
I stand a little taller… I am feeling stronger… And I am not feeling alone in my mission in life and that is the biggest blessing of it all. I am surrounded by people that care about me and those things that are important to me. And I am grateful for those blessings that I get each and every day.
I am not focusing on what I am going to do professionally. I don’t know… I am certainly in a crossroad with that. I want to be able to do something professionally that will make me happy but I am not sure on what that will be. I have so many ideas running through my head but will any of them work? I don’t know… There are so many people that will help bring you down; and you try to push yourself and there are people that just won’t let you push you out of your comfort zone.
I just posted a status message on Facebook… saying that if you are planning a party to let me know so I can offer up my services to make it a special event. Let’s see how many STUPID comments I get. I swear if I get any stupid comments from people on there, I will delete those people from my friends list and from my life. I am already cleaning up my friends list so I am on a roll of getting rid of people from my life. I don’t need the negativity in my life and I have no problem pushing them out of it for good.
I have already done that with people that I have known for a very long time… and if they continue with their crap, I will just walk away for good. I don’t need the drama of being shunned from their life. I don’t need the drama of people feeling as though I can just be pushed to the side and only advised of things when they believe that I should be advised. I can’t stand it when people just want to share things with some and not with all… I thought that we were friends, but I guess I am not that important in your life to know things. Whatever… I’m continuing on with my life and bringing in more people into my life.

March 1st 2012

March 1, 2012

Feeling great... and what a way to start of a new month!

My W/I isn't until Monday but I have to say that I am excited about all the activity points that I have earned this week. I know that I probably won't use any of them, but I am proud of myself for earning them! I have made it my goal to get to the gym 4x's a week and today is day four! OMG, I am feeling wonderful!

I tried a new class last night when I went to the gym, and even though I won't be going back to that class, I have to say that I was really working myself. It was cardio hip-hop and now I understand why I've never taken that class - I don't have the rhythm necessary for it! LOL!! I am totally a salsa/merengue girl... give me my island music and I am good! LOL!

My husband showed up to the gym when I was half way through the glass and I saw him working out through the glass window, and I kept mouthing to him that I just didn't get it. He was laughing at me and telling me that I was doing fine - which I know he was lying about because I knew that I wasn't! But I stuck to it and finally finished an hour later... and after tracking it, that one class gave me 16 activity points! No wonder I was sweating so much, the class kicked me in the rear and the activity points made sure that I knew it! LOL!

I am looking forward to taking Zumba tonight at the gym. I tell you, if I could take that class every single day, I would! I just love it! My heart rates shoots through the roof but the rhythm that I don't have for cardio hip-hop I SOOOOO have for this class. And I'm glad that I get this class because I would hate it if I didn't have rhythm for some type of music! LOL!!

I am sure hoping that I see a significant weight loss on Monday... I deserve that at least! LOL!! But a negative number on the scale is always a good number! :-) I cannot wait until I start seeing those negative numbers climb up... and I am finally at my goal weight; which I have to figure out what that number is still.

But until then, I am going to enjoy earning all those activity points and seeing all those negative numbers add up!